As young boys we search, without knowing it, for someone to be our role model. In our early years we end up looking to athletes, writers, actors, or other figures to fill that role. We choose these people because society tells us that is who we need to become to be considered "successful." When I came to the realization that I was never going to throw down a major dunk in an NBA game like Michael Jordan, or score the game winning touchdown in an NFL game like Emmitt Smith, I had to find another role model. Fortunately for me, the greatest role model I could have ever asked for is my father.
I tend to be a person who likes things to be written in black and white. You can imagine my discouragement when I realized that there was no book on how to be a man. What I didn't see then is that my Dad was writing that manual for me every day with how he lived his life. Even as a young man of twenty-two, I am able to look back and see the life lessons my father has taught me.
He taught me to develop a strong work ethic through his commitment to his company. If you have ever worked construction, you know it's not easy work. The days are long, the labor is difficult, and your task often goes without thanks. I was lucky enough to work with my Dad during the summers from 7th-12th grade when I wasn't playing sports. While I was a terrible builder, I was able to see him put everything he had into his work, and to lead the crew of guys working with him. I hated working construction at the time, but the lessons I learned continue to affect my work ethic to this day.
In my opinion, one of the biggest responsibilities placed on a man, is that of being the leader of his family. We are expected to provide for, guide, and love our families to the best of our abilities. In more ways than I have time to mention he has fulfilled this responsibility. My father has shown me unconditional love. Admittedly, I was a turd growing up, and found myself doing some pretty stupid things. He was never demeaning, judgmental, or unrealistic with me. When I messed up he made sure that I knew where I had gone astray and how to avoid those situations in the future. I may not live in the Ritz, wear the most trendy clothes, or drive the hottest car on the market, but I have never had to worry that I would not be provided for. By working hard and making a lot of sacrifices, he made sure that my sister and I always had what we needed. In fact, I can think of several times my Dad passed up on his own needs to make sure that we were able to get/do the things we wanted.
However, even bigger than all of those things, my Dad has shown me that life is not about the size of your paycheck, the girl you are dating, the car you drive, the house you live in, or even how expensive the outfit you are wearing is. Family, true friends, a job that you enjoy, and love are far more important things to acquire in your life. Most importantly, he taught me that life is about following God and furthering his kingdom.
Dad, I want to thank you for all of these wonderful life lessons. The man I am today is largely in part to the way you've lived your life. Thank you for being my best friend, role model, and also being my father on the days that I need a kick in the pants. I wouldn't trade the memories we have made in the past twenty-two years for anything. If someday I am told that I am a lot like you, I will consider my life a success. Happy Father's Day, Dad!
